Holy Listening / Journey Conversations Agreement - adapted from Companions on a Journey, Journey Groups, College of Saint Benedict and Journey Conversations Agreements Developed by Diane Millis, PhD

The Four Agreements video created by Courageous Conversations focuses on anti-racism conversations.

However, the principles apply to any difficult or potentially divisive discussion. The video might be a helpful step in establishing group norms for dialogue on any topic.

Berea College's Brushy Fork Institute's On Setting Group Norms - a quick tip sheet on creating a safe(r) container for difficult conversations.

CREATING SAFE SPACES FOR COURAGEOUS CONVERSATIONS

Two factors not mentioned in any of the above include these related norms or intentions:

1. The only 'truth' or 'idea' that cannot be tolerated is one based in hate. There is no room for hate-speech in respectful conversations.
2. Since we agree to avoid all hate-speech, we are able to assume best intent from one another. As each person speaks their truth, it is helpful to recognize that not everyone is a practiced, fully prepared, or comfortable public speaker. Words may be spoken that are meant with a good intent, but experienced as painful. Let each participant own their own feelings, acknowledge them, identify them appropriately, and be gracious and forgiving in both speaking and hearing.

How Hearts and Attitudes Changed During Disagreement

“We had a big decision to make,” writes Don Poest, “and it was not unanimous. But there was respect. Why? Because we took the time to allow the Holy Spirit to soften our hearts."

A simple way to deepen spiritual relationships. The intent is to develop respect, vulnerability, and openness to one another so that while minds may not be changed, attitudes toward one another are.

Starts With Us is a growing movement equipping people worldwide to overcome toxic polarization and solve the world's toughest problems. They do this by illuminating the causes and effects of toxic polarization, demonstrating the power of citizens working together across lines of difference, and activating Builders from all walks of life with the skills to become more effective problem solvers.

Free Downloads from Trauma Stewardship Initiative:

Tiny Survival Guide (PDF)

Map for Managing One’s Day (PDF)

Gratitude Log (PDF)

When Experiencing Overwhelm & Trauma (PDF)

A Letter from a Trauma Worker on the Anniversary (PDF)

Decision Fatigue & Cognitive Overload (PDF)

The skills improvisers use to create compelling stories are valuable off-stage too. In their workshops, Danger Boat facilitators guide groups through exercises to enhance listening, collaboration, and creativity. Participants will gain skills in: adaptive leadership, navigating different perspectives, creative brainstorming, deep listening, and comfort in the unknown. Workshops can be tailored for any group size and duration, from 55 minutes to multi-day retreats. Discover new approaches, bring your group closer, and build a “yes, and...” culture all while having fun.

The Art of Difficult Conversations with Tane Danger of DangerBoat Productions/Theater of Public Policy